My husband and I have been re-experimenting with ways to improve my behavior. I'm fesity and I have trouble submitting to his authority. I also have a smart mouth on me, which often gets me into trouble. We've been thinking about doing a three day boot camp again, which I'm not looking forward to because I know I won't be able to sit down for a week afterwards, but it does our relationship so much good.
Here are the things we're working on now:
Every week on Friday morning I get a "preventative" spanking. This is a hard OTK spanking and it's mainly to release the stress and frustration that has built up over the week so that we can have a peaceful weekend together.
Every Monday morning before he leaves town, I'm given a "maintenance" spanking. This usually involves tools and I am whipped pretty hard. Our last session was over 15 minutes and he didn't stop until I was crying.
So, regardless of my behavior, I receive two spankings a week, which I was against at first, but since we started doing it, I have noticed I've received less and less punishment spankings. Which is good because my punishment spankings are the worst and they involve corner time. My last punishment spanking took over 30 minutes and he used five instruments. My butt was sore for days, but I deserved it. I was disrespectful to him and I used language like a sailor.
So, back to our routine. Every Monday I get a "maintenance" spanking and every Friday I get a "preventative" spanking. In between, I receive punishment spankings if necessary and/or "infraction" spankings. If we aren't alone and I've misbehaved, he will issue a 10-20 swat "infraction" spanking, letting me know that as soon as we are alone, my bottom is going to get blistered. If I get 3 infraction spankings with no time for a punishment spanking, there are serious consequences to follow. First, I have to stand in the corner with my panties down around my ankles and wait for him. Then, when he comes in, he puts me over his knee and lectures me about my behavior while my bare bum is exposed. Next, I have to confess to him what I have done wrong, which is usually a lot. He says its important that I confess it so that I understand why I am being punished. Then, I must ask him to punish me. Sometimes he makes me be very specific in asking and I know he wants to humiliate me a little more so I learn my lesson. I have to ask him specifically for a certain tool and for a certain number of swats. I really know I'm being punished when he stops half way through and sends me back to the corner, instructing me to masturbate to relieve the sexual build up I'm feeling. Then, after I orgasm, he takes me back over his knee and renders the rest of the punishment until I am weeping in his arms. After I stop crying, he asks me if I've learned my lesson and judging from my emotion, he determines if I need to be whipped further, which is usually a yes. By the end, I can't wait to get his lovely, erect penis into my mouth and glorify him. After he climaxes, I am sent back to the corner to think about my behavior and the consequences of it. When I have come to terms with everything, I am to come to him and apologize and thank him for giving me a clean slate. If I don't feel it is clean and I am still holding a grudge or have a bad attitude, he gives me 50-100 more swats, usually with his belt.
It may sound hard and harsh, but our marriage is so wonderful when I submit that it is worth every stroke on my backside.
We are also working on self-spankings for when I over-eat or curse and he is out of town. Right now, I text my confession to him and then he texts back how many swats and what instruments I am to use. Then, I have to record my spanking and send the video to him for approval. If he says it is adequate, I am free to pull up my pants and go about my day. If not, he assigns more swats and I have to record another video. It's been working really well. I've lost 13 pounds toward my goal weight and have had to give myself 5 very hard, very long spankings.