Tuesday, September 17, 2013

Men MUST Give Mandatory Spankings

It's hard to maintain consistency when we have such a busy schedule and especially when my husband is out of town during most weeks.  Sometimes we get to put in one solid week of submission training and I can really tell a difference in how I feel and how our marriage is during those weeks that he's home. 

A spanking keeps me in line, and it keeps most women in line although the mainstream is afraid to face it or admit it.  At first it feels embarrassing to say you need to be spanked, but after a while you realize there's no shame in it.  Men are leaders and that doesn't mean women can't lead, but it means that we are designed to co-lead with the man.

Women have a whole lot more hormonal and emotional things happening in their bodies and minds than men do.  I don't know about you but sometimes I can't even control my emotions.  Sometimes I feel sad for no reason or irritable for no reason and that's when a being brought over his knee helps to refocus my energy and bring me to a happier place.

If I go a few days without being held accountable I start to use bad language, I get a negative outlook, I get crabby and hateful and angry, and then I end up getting a hard punishment lashing instead of the normal daily maintenance.  I'd rather have the daily discipline than the punishment one any day of the week. 

My bum is an instrument of peace in our marriage.  When my husband is angry with me, we don't have to fight, he simply pulls down my pants and gives me a spanking, during which he releases his anger and I submit and the argument dies right there.

Being spanked is a stress release for a woman, especially if you paddle her until she cries.  Making her cry might seem mean at first, but it isn't, it's opening the dam of her emotions and helping her release it all.  Sometimes women just need to cry and then the world is a better place.  Sometimes it takes a man's belt on her bare ass to provide that release.

Men, women need rules because rules make us feel protected and safe.  Also, when we break a rule we need immediate consequences because that makes us feel noticed and loved.  There is nothing worse in a woman's heart than if she feels unnoticed, uncared for or unloved.  The worse times in our marriage have been when I've felt ignored by him or less important than other people or other things or like he was neglecting what was important to me.  Those are big danger areas for a woman and men need to be able to recognize those areas and fix what needs to be fixed.  Sometimes just getting on a routine discipline schedule will fill in the gaps and show her how much she is loved.

Men, be ready for your woman to test you out in public with her words or attitude.  She may not even consciously know it, but this is a test.  She wants to see if you will be strong enough to hold the reigns and follow through on your rules.  It isn't always possible to discipline in public, but if the opportunity is there, take it.  It will make a huge difference in your marriage.  If you're out at a movie or a restaurant and there is a designated "family restroom" that is one room with a locked door, take your wife in there, lock the door, bend her over the sink and give her a belting or a hand spanking.  If you are driving, pull into a secluded spot, open both the front and back door on one side of the car, bend your wife over the back seat so that the view is blocked by both doors and give her a hard paddling.  I know of men who have taken their wife out to the parking lot, sat in the backseat of their cars with their wife over their knee and given them a walloping without anyone knowing.  There are ways to make it happen when it needs to.  At the very least, if you cannot make it happen, take her by the arm and whisper in her ear that she is going to get it when you get home.  Let her anticipate the spanking for the rest of the evening and then upon arriving home, administer it immediately.

By making her spanking a priority in your life, you are making HER a priority.  By caring enough to enforce the rules, you are telling her that you care enough about HER to make her feel safe and protected.  It all begins with your hand on her backside in a consistent and permeating way.

So, if you have an inconsistent pattern, this is what you need to do:

1.  Mandatory spanking every morning and every evening that you are together.  This MUST happen without fail.  Make time for it.  Do this for a period of 14 days total if your weeks are broken up with travel or two weeks consistently if you are both home.

2.  Seven of these 14 days she must exercise an attitude of submission by coming to her husband and asking to receive a spanking.  This is in addition to the regular morning and evening sessions.  Whenever you are together, for lunch, the middle of the night, it doesn't matter when, the wife must exhibit submission by going to the husband, taking off her clothes and asking him to discipline her.  She may bring him a tool or he may use his hand, take off his belt, a spatula, ping pong paddle, hairbrush, whatever is at his disposal. 

3.  Prior to the morning and evening session, the wife must be given anticipation and reflection time.  This is time naked and either in the corner or in spanking position, reflecting on her behavior and anticipating the discipline he is about to administer.  It doesn't have to be a long period of time, 1-3 minutes is adequate.

4.  Spankings must be long and hard to be effective.  If her bottom isn't bright red and burning hot then it is not going to be effective.  Hard, fast swats get the point across the quickest. 

After 14 days she should hurt to sit down.  Her bottom should be sore but her heart will be warm and so will your marriage. 

Wednesday, September 11, 2013

Spank the Stress Away

I can get pretty cranky and sometimes I just get upset and mad and I stay that way.  It makes me hate myself really.  I’ve been in a mood lately and my hubby got tired of it.  But before he could even punish me for my sour outlook I burst into tears.  I didn’t do it on purpose, even though I know that makes it harder on him to punish me.  We talked and decided that I need help controlling my emotions, especially when I’m frustrated and angry.  Anytime I’m mad I fight being spanked even to the point of kicking him, which results in a longer, harder beating ultimately.  I don’t know why I do it, but sometimes the anger gets the best of me.  We decided that controlling my emotions was going to be top of my list for a while and he is going to help me by putting in place some small steps of stress release and submission.


You guys all know that submission and stress go hand in hand.  It’s almost impossible for an upset, agitated and stressed out woman to easily submit her bottom for a paddling.  We’re not wired this way, but there are things that help us submit easier and with less of a fight.  These things have to be done consistently or it’s a waste of time and effort.


Here’s what has worked wonders for us.  I’m happier and more peaceful and I sleep better and feel less stress in my life.  I know it will work for you if you take the time and make it a priority in your marriage.


Step 1:  Every morning, either before work or after taking the kids to school, before your day gets started, the wife strips completely naked and lies on the bed with her bottom exposed.  This is similar to corner time, only she is lying down, exposed and awaiting a whipping.  This gives her time to think about her mindset, her emotions, her attitude and her behavior.  She should lay in this position a minimum of 3-5 minutes, enough to let the upcoming discipline sink in and let her insides get tingly with anticipation.


Step 2:  The husband needs to stand where the wife can see him.  He should be holding his belt and address her, explaining to her that he is going to give her a belt spanking (one of the most painful) to relieve the stress that builds up inside of her and causes her to misbehave, feel embittered and angry.  This spanking will be to tears which means he will not let up until his wife is sobbing and sorrowful.  The stress is not released until the woman breaks down emotionally.  My husband had trouble with this the first few times because I was stubborn and it took me a while to cry, now I cry easily.  A belt spanking should cause her to cry somewhere between 25 and 200 lashes depending on how stubborn she is.


Step 3:  Send her to the corner immediately without any sex play.  Her pussy will be hot and wet from the anticipation of sex and from the sensation of your authority, but it’s important that you don’t have sex yet.  She needs time to think about the spanking and to process in her mind why she was whipped and allow it to shape her attitude moving forward.   This is a very important step.  Anytime my husband didn’t send me to the corner after a beating, the message didn’t sink in.  A woman needs time to be introspective and apply the discipline to her behavior.


Step 4:  Engage in sex play if you both want but with the understanding that her beating is only half way done and that after she orgasms you’re going to finish the whipping.  This is important for her to hear and to know that this is not a game to the husband.  She needs to understand that she is not being spanked as a form of foreplay but as a strict discipline related to her attitude and behavior.  Nothing proves that more than a whipping right after you have both peaked.  Before you have sex, tell her she will be getting another spanking immediately following.  She might not believe you but you’ll prove it to her.


Step 5:  As soon as the sex is done, have her place the palms of her hands on top of the bed or desk or dresser and protrude her bottom outward.  Give her at least 25 more lashings with the belt and talk through each lashing.  Example:  “This is for being cranky at home.”  Lash 1.  “This is for using foul language out of anger.”  Lash 2.   “This is for a negative attitude.”  Lash 3.  She needs your verbal proclamation of her misbehavior in order to make a solid connection in her mind that this is what happens when she behaves this way. 


Before bedtime it is very important that you follow this procedure again only you can substitute the belt for a quieter tool if you have others in the home who might overhear.  If you want to see changes in the wife’s behavior she must be paddled first thing in the morning and last thing at night.  Do this for two weeks and then you will be able to taper it down to once or twice a week.


I promise it works. I’ve been feeling light and free and our home has been peaceful and our marriage has been incredibly wonderful.  Spank that stress away, it’s good for your heart too!