Top Ten Tips to Make Your New Year a Spanking Success

Happy New Year DD friends!

We hope the new year will bring you resolutions of good behavior and when the behavior slips, we hope you will have good discipline in tact to provide stability in your home.  May you have more maintenance and less punishment spankings this year.

We decided to start 2016 off with some important information about how to bring balance and keep balance in your home.

Follow these steps and we guarantee you will find harmony in your relationship:

1.      1.  Sit down with your partner and write in a maintenance spanking schedule on your calendar.  If it is in writing it will be that much easier to stick to.  **This is especially important for couples who spend a lot of time apart due to their careers.  Choose the date and time and then stick to it. 

2.      2.   Re-evaluate your improvement list and add to it any new resolutions you have made.

3.       3.  Assign a punishment value to every item on the list.  **We have found that this is highly effective in deterring mis-behavior.  i.e. if she knows that ignoring her exercise plan will result in a consistent outpouring of 50 lashes with the cane, she will be more prone to make the choice to do the exercise.

 

4.       4.  Also assign a position to the list.  Your list might look something like this:

Cursing                                 -              25 swats with belt for each curse word           -      OTK

Attitude               -              50 swats with the hairbrush for each occurrence     -   Bent over bed

Exercise               -              50 caning swats     -   Standing with fingers locked behind head

Maintenance     -              10 minute hand spanking   -  OTK

Over-spending  -

Lying                   -

Adultery             -

And so on and so forth.  The new year is the time to assign new values and new positions and then commit yourself to stick to them.

5.       5.  Corner time is a MUST and you need to re-commit to enforcing it.  **Some women are opposed to corner time because they feel it is humiliating so derive an alternative.  A very effective alternative is to have her lie naked over the edge of the bed with her bottom exposed and write down why she is about to be punished and how she can avoid punishment in the future. This is less humiliating for the woman and it allows her to visually process her behavior as she writes it down.  It also gives the husband something to review with her before he begins the discipline session.

6.       6.  Get rid of the excuses!  **The biggest excuse we hear is that couples are rarely alone to execute punishment when needed.  This is fixable with a commitment from both parties.  If there are people in your home when punishment is earned, then leave your home.  Drive to a vacant parking lot, a vacant road, climb into the backseat and provide the discipline that is needed.  Don’t allow yourself to make excuses.  **If children are in the home, pretend to take a shower, turn on the water, the bathroom fan, lock the doors, provide a pillow for the partner being punished to cry into and use a silent tool.  It CAN be done and it MUST be done!

7.      7.   Guilt-Release Session   **We are learning more and more that women carry more guilt than men.  With regards to day-to-day issues men are able to release guilt faster and easier than women.  So, gents, it is your responsibility to help bring your wife or partner relief from the guilt she is experiencing and there’s no better time than the new year to start things off right!

WHAT A GUILT-RELEASE SESSION LOOKS LIKE

a.        The wife writes down a list of all of the things she feels guilty about.  This list might be day-to-day things, people she’s let down, mistakes she’s made in the past or present, etc.  Every woman is different and her list will be unique to her life experiences.

b.      Sit down together and read the list.  This is not a time for judgment or a time to argue that she should or should not feel the way she feels.  If an item is on the list, she is feeling guilty about it, and thusly it must be addressed in order for her to feel relief.  **Many women will cry just in sharing the list because they have a great amount of shame or humiliation attached to the issues they have written down.  This is normal and not an indication that they do not want to follow-through with the session.

c.       Depending on the length of the list, it may need to be broken down into more than one session.  This is permissible, but try to keep the sessions all in the same day.  i.e. one in the morning, one in the afternoon, one in the evening.

d.      Assign a punishment value to each item and write those next to the item.

e.      During the session, eye-contact is extremely important for two reasons:  1) Looking you in the eyes as you discuss the item makes her take full ownership in it.    2) Looking you in the eyes allows her to see your forgiveness and your unconditional love for her.  It makes her feel secure that even in her worse offense, you will not allow her to destroy the relationship. Your strength will bring your relationship back to a place of balance.

f.        Address each item verbally first and then administer the punishment.  **Sometimes an item prompts questions like, “what were you thinking?” or “why would you do that?”  This is okay.  Husbands will often encounter an item on her list that arises feelings of anger in them and that is acceptable.  Putting her over your knee is a means of cleansing both of you, acknowledging the anger she has made you feel and punishing her for the behavior, ultimately restoring balance in the relationship.

8.       8.  She must be naked during a discipline session.  **Couples try to squirm around this one but it is crucial to the success of DD.  Her nakedness is a symbol of her submission to you and of stripping down all exterior factors that stand between you. 

9.       9.  Immediate Punishment is of the utmost important because it is what builds her trust in your ability to lead the home.  **Men, you must prove to her that your word is true and thusly you must do what you say you are going to do.  The more she trusts your follow-through, the quicker she will learn to submit to you and the more peaceful your relationship will be.

1    10. Alone time after a punishment session is needed for at least 3-5 minutes for her to process her behavior and your strength in correcting her.  After the time has lapsed, come back to her and then be affectionate.  **We are learning more and more that immediate sexual gratification is inhibiting the dominant-submissive connection, but adding in affection after a short time of reflection strengthens the connection.

That’s it!  Your top ten new year’s resolutions to start the year off aces!

This message was sent to our newsletter patrons as well but we thought it was helpful and wanted to share with everyone!  Happy New Year!

P.S.  Now, I'm off to get a spanking for being 6 days late at getting the newsletter out.  He asked me three times to get it down and I kept procrastinating.  I am sorry for my delay and I know in about 15 minutes I'm going to be a whole lot sorrier.  He's already laid his belt across the chair and my stomach is trembling with anticipation.  This will be my first punishment spanking of 2016 and I'm certain he's going to make it leave a lasting impression.  

Whip It Good

This was me today after a hard spanking.  My sarcastic mouth got the best of me again and my hubby gave me quite the whipping with his belt.  What's more is he told me I'm getting the second half of the punishment tonight before bed.  My butt is still sore and I'm already dreading what's coming, even though I know I've earned it.

NOW!

It's been a while since I've had a chance to blog because I got a part time job and have been tired by the end of every day.  My husband said I needed to get back at it so here I am.  We've had many discipline sessions since I last blogged but it would take forever to tell you about them, so I'll just talk about the spanking I got today, since my bottom is still burning from it.

I had been a smart mouth most of the day and my husband finally had enough.  I made a sarcastic remark and he put his arm around my waist and whispered in my ear.  "Go pull down your pants now."  I objected because our kids were home and two of our nephews were visiting so we had a houseful of kids, but he didn't care.  He had had it with my attitude and my remarks.  "NOW!" he whispered and gave my arm a deliberate squeeze.

I went into our bathroom, pulled down my pants and panties and bent over the side of the tub.  I thought I knew what was going to happen, he'd take the silent took, a loopy johnny, give me 15-20 quiet slaps and I'd be on my way, but boy was I ever wrong.  When he came into our bedroom, he locked the door and turned on the t.v. really loud.  It was a soccer game.  Then he came into the bathroom and locked that door behind him and turned on the shower and the fan.  I knew right then that he was planning on using more then just the silent tool.

He pulled me from over the tub and led me to the corner.  While I stood with my nose in the corner, he rubbed his hands over my bare ass and told me about the punishment I was going to get and why I was going to get it.  He talked about my attitude and my comments and explained that he wasn't going to tolerate this type of disrespectful behavior.  He ran his finger over my private part and stroked a few times while he explained that it was his job to keep me disciplined and on the right track and that he had been lax lately.  He then led me back to the tub where he asked me to bend over and rest my hands against the edge, so my bottom was outward, facing him.  He started with his belt and gave me 30 stinging slaps until I was crying and apologizing.  Then he had me lay down on my back and put my legs in the air so he could make eye contact with me while he spanked me.  He used the wooden paddle and gave me 20 swats, making me look him in the eye with every swat.  This was humiliating.  Looking at him while he punishes me is the worst because I can't hide the fact that I know I deserve what I'm getting.  After that he took me back into the bathroom and bent me over the tub and gave me a hard lashing with the silent tool until I was sobbing.

"I want you to think about your attitude."  He warned me and then he told me that no matter where we are or no matter if the kids are home, he will hold me accountable for my actions and my behavior.  My butt is so sore but I never feel more loved then when he takes the time to discipline me.

Face-to-Face

My hubbie just read my blog and wanted me to add something that I totally forgot about.  This has been a HUGE HUGE influence in helping me get to tears during a spanking and feel genuinely remorseful and embrace submission.

As I mentioned, he always begins with an OTK hand spanking to warm my bottom up, but even before that, when he first brings me toward him, he talks to me, eye-to-eye, face to face about my behavior.  This makes me focus on the fact that I am about to be punished because of MY own actions.  It helps me realize that I control my behavior and he is merely holding me accountable.  Sometimes, while he talks to me, he'll rub his hand over my bottom and other times he'll cup my pussy, not so much to arouse me but as an expression of his authority.  A reminder that I'm his, that he'd rather provide pleasure but when discipline is warranted he will provide pain.  The powerful thing about this is that I have to look him in the eyes and admit what I have done wrong.  "You spent two hundred and fifty two dollars over your credit card limit, didn't you?"  I nod, because I did.  "And you knew you were over the limit when you spent it, didn't you?"  I nod again. Guilty.  "What do you deserve for this?"  This is the part that's really hard for me, saying that I deserve to be given a hard spanking and sent to the corner.  "I deserve to be punished."

"And what should that punishment be?"  He sometimes asks me.

"A spanking."

Just having me say the words is humiliating.  Looking my husband in the eyes and admitting that I need him to take me over his knee for a whipping is embarrassing and that's part of the process of submission.

So, men, enforce it because it will have a long-term positive effect on your wife.

Male Perspective on Spanking

Heather hasn't been blogging lately because her attitude has been less than desirable and her blogs were not uplifting, so she deleted them.  In her absence she has received a lot of emails asking where she is and if she's going to be continuing her blog.  The answer is yes.  January for us held a new awakening in discipline and she is excited to tell you about it.  First we decided it would be best if I presented a husband view and answered some of the male questions, and then she will begin blogging and sharing from the female perspective and answer those questions.

Being the man and the head of the household isn't always easy.  I think some people get it in their heads that I always want to discipline my wife when that isn't the case.  There are times when she needs a spanking but I don't feel like doing it.  It's at those times when I have to press forward and honor my commitment to her and to us and take her over my knee.  As the head of the home, it is my job to maintain peace and order so keeping a tight handle on my wife's attitude and respectful behavior is imperative to the overall health and harmony in our home.

Men, you must follow these simple rules if discipline is going to work for you:

1.  Conduct a boot camp at least once every quarter.  It serves as a reminder to her of the difference between punishment spankings and maintenance spankings and it will make her appreciate the maintenance ones.  It also helps teach her to be submissive in attitude, not weak, submissive.  It takes a woman a great deal of strength to submit to a man.  Don't underestimate this and your job to teach her how to do it.

2.  Give her a reminder paddling every night before bed.  If she objects, increase the paddling.  She will sleep better and wake up with a good outlook on life.

3.  Remember gentleman that a hard spanking provides your love with emotional release that inevitably lowers her stress level, calms her irritability and fights depression.  You are literally doing her a favor by giving her a hard throttling and you should, for this reason, spank her bottom until she cries and achieves the needed release.  If you quit too soon you have done nothing for either of you.

4.  A spanking session is also a release for you, men, and that is acceptable.  If she has made you angry, it is acceptable to paddle her and release that anger.

5.  You must send her to the corner with her panties down and her bare red bottom exposed.  This is an act of submission that she must do.  If she objects spank her until she is more agreeable.

6.  Kids at home is not a reason to avoid a spanking so don't allow her to use this excuse.  It is the number one excuse women use to get out of being punished.  Get a signal and a quiet tool so the children or guests in your home will not know.  Touch your belt and motion her upstairs or downstairs.  Step into a bathroom and turn on the fan and the shower, or go into the bedroom and lock the door.  Paddle her hard and fast with a silent tool (a hangar works like magic) until she cries.  Reprimand her quietly while you give her a hearty spanking.  If she objects, add to the punishment.  By this I mean, if you cannot spank her longer right then, you tell her she is to come back to this room in thirty minutes for another beating.

7.  Know your list of infractions and hold her accountable for every item on the list.  If she curses, issue a beating immediately.  If she overspends her limit, issue a beating immediately.  If she backtalks or disrespects your authority, pull her pants down right then and there and give her a thrashing.  YOU control whether she succeeds at learning submission.

8.  If you travel as I do, it is harder but not impossible.  The first night you get home, give her a spanking as a reminder of the behavior you expect to see in her.  Impose upon her that she keeps a journal while you are away in which she makes note of her infractions.  Hold her accountable for each one with a solid spanking.

9.  If her behavior slips while in public, take her into a family-style restroom that locks and whip her with your belt.  If a restroom is not available, take her into the parking lot and give her a whipping in the back of the car.  Even the smallest of cars can accommodate a spanking.  If you are unable to take care of it right at the moment, tell her privately that when you are alone in the car or at home that she is to take down her pants and remind you that she has earned a punishment spanking.  If you put the burden of remembering on her, it will impact her that much more.

10.  You cannot spank your wife too much or too often.  The worst mistake is to make her feel like you don't care and the way in which you do that is to stop holding her accountable.  Her bottom should bare your handprint or the marks of your belt 24/7.

Good luck, gents!

Exposure!

I'm so excited!  My hubby just walked in the room and handed me my kindle and on it is the new Susan Sanchez book!!!!!!!!  He downloaded it for me! I can't wait to read it!  It's called EXPOSURE!

You guys might remember I interviewed the author a while back and she told me that her short stories are really just sort of like teasers leading up to her full-length novel about Elise Dugar.  I can't wait until that comes out! We need more fiction stories on domestic discipline that accurately depict it.  That's what I love about these books.  They have some sex, which is true to life experience, but they also totally tap into the emotional and psychological benefits of spanking.

Here's a pic of the new book:

Here is the information on Amazon:  http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00HRIE9BE

If you haven't read the Susan Sanchez books, you're missing out!  They're easy reads and I would say even gripping, like I think about them long after I've put my kindle down for the day.  It's a series so you should start with the first one, though I think you could probably pick up any of them out of sequence and still get a feel for the characters; but if you want my advice, start with book one.

Okay, gotta fly, I'm off to read EXPOSURE!!  

About to be Disciplined

I'm sitting at my computer right now with my jeans and panties around my ankles.  It's part of my punishment.  My husband has instructed me to sit with my bum bare and blog about why I am about to be disciplined.  I'm sort of nervous because I know this is going to be a long and really hard spanking.  I also know I deserve what I'm going to get and probably even more.

Here's what happened.  I got a call from an old beau of mine over the holiday and he was in town and wanted to have coffee.  I don't have any feelings for the man at all, other than just that we went to high school together and sometimes it's fun to relive the memories and waltz down memory lane.  I didn't tell my husband about the call and I lied to him about going shopping when I really went and met my old beau. Now, nothing happened between us, just coffee.  I'm not having an affair, nor do I want to have an affair. And I only saw him just this once.  Anyway, my old beau text me this morning to thank me for meeting him and talking and said he'll be in town next month and can we meet again.  My husband saw the text and now I'm in trouble for lying to him.  I know, I know, I deserve what's coming.

So, here I sit fulfilling the first part of the punishment:  confessing it online to my six hundred regular blog readers.  Then I will get spanked.  And the third part of my punishment is that I will have to come back on line when it is over and tell all of you about my spanking.

My husband just walked in and told me it's time to wrap up this blog and go stand in the corner.  Wish me luck.

It's a New Year!

The holiday season has been hectic and crazy for me, but I do have some stories to share, one in particular involving a brand new hair brush I received for Christmas.  I'll try to start posting again this week.  I hope everyone had a spanking good Christmas and New Years and that your resolutions, like mine, are effective and prosperous.

A Very Merry Shade of Red

The holidays are a hard time of year for me because I get so overloaded with stuff to do and getting ready for Christmas just gets tiring.  Because of this I get cranky and last night my husband had had enough of my crankiness.  He waiting until our kids were in bed and then he said to me, "Go upstairs, pull down your pants and stand in the corner and wait for me."

I said, "Why?!!!"

He said, "Because you need an attitude adjustment and I'm sick of being treated disrespectfully."

I was pissed off.  I stormed upstairs and stood in the corner but I didn't pull down my pants.  I was going to show him!

When he came up and saw that I hadn't done as he asked, he went to the closet and got a plastic hangar.  The plastic hangar stings like hell and is pretty silent.  He then pulled a chair into the center of the room and sat down, instructing me to come over to him.  I did and while he told me that he was going to not only punish me for my bad attitude and crankiness, but also for my disobedience, he unhooked my jeans and pulled them down.  He then pulled down my panties and ran his index finger quickly over my pussy.  "I was going to pleasure you tonight, but it seems you're more in need of a hard spanking."

"NO!" I said, "I would much rather you pleasured me."

"Maybe you should think about that next time you decide to disobey."  With that, he pulled me over the top of his knees and spanked me with the hangar.  I tried to block him a couple of times which resulted in more swats.  I don't know how many swats he gave me, but it was long and hard enough that my butt was on fire when he sent me back to the corner and went to fetch the Loopy Johnny.  That's the whip he uses for my language and for my attitude when we have to be quiet.  This time he had me bend over the bed and he stood behind me and gave me a long beating with the Loopy Johnny.  He told me he wasn't going to stop until I cried and was truly remorseful and he sure didn't.  When I finally sobbed into the pillow and said I was sorry, then he put me back in the corner to think about it.  My butt was burning and felt red hot to the touch. Even today when I sit down I can still feel a stinging sensation on my cheeks.

He informed me last night laying in bed that it was time for us to do another jump start program, which means I'm going to get a spanking every day for a while.  He says my attitude needs to be checked and kept in line and there is evidence to prove that a spanking a day keeps the crankiness away.  He's right, though I don't like it.  It looks like my butt is going to be a very merry shade of red for the holidays.

Happy Spanksgiving!

Happy Spanksgiving everyone!

 

Sometimes discipline has to be administered even on a holiday.  Looks like I'm on my way to the bathroom to get a quiet paddling.  I dropped an accidental F-bomb and I know my husband caught it because he gave me "the look."  Now, I'm waiting for him to come find me and tell me to go bare my bottom and wait for him.

Waiting is so hard sometimes.  I know I deserve what's coming and I want him to hold me accountable, but at the same time, the silent loopy johnny whip really hurts.

Me and my big mouth!

 

Happy Spanksgiving!

Baring It All

This is a happy, happy, happy Thanksgiving for me!  My husband downloaded the new Elise Dugar Episodes book for me, called BARING IT ALL.  Oooooh, it's good, good, good!!!

Elise gets spanked on the rooftop of the hospital where she works.  It's an awesome scene and sexy, very, very hot!

 

I just love Susan Sanchez stories. I hope you guys like them as much as I do.  Of course it doesn't hurt that they cost less than a buck too, and the fact that they not only get me hot but they get my hubby going too.  It's a win, win, win for us!

You can view the book here.

New Favorite Pics

Some of my new found favorite pics.  Hope you enjoy and have a very happy holiday season!

 

 

 

Submissive Susan

I am excited to share part of my conversation with Susan Sanchez, author of the Elise Dugar Episodes, a short story series on submission and domestic discipline.  She was very entertaining and I can’t wait to read her next books.  She zeros down on the true sensuality of submission and dominance in a way that I think a lot of writers miss; but that’s because she has a better understanding of it than most.  Susan Sanchez isn’t just an erotica writer, she’s a believer in the baring the bottom for the sake of love. 

 

What made you decide to write about submission and dominance?

 

I have seen personally and through others the benefits of this type of relational equilibrium, so I thought I would put it into words through short stories.

 

 

     Are you going to write more than the Elise Dugar Episodes?

 

Yes.  I’m actually writing a full-length novel about this type of balance.

 

 

     Would you consider your work to be similar to Fifty Shades of Grey?

 

No.  I enjoyed reading that series but the kink got a little old for me after a while.  I found myself skimming through those parts to get back to the story.  For me the hottest scenes in that series were the ones where she was spanked, plain and simple, without all of the tying up.  My books don’t include bondage.  They are simply about the freedom that comes with submission and the harmony derived from a submissive/dominant relationship.

 

                I love your books.  I, too, have felt that a lot of the books out there don’t realistically depict the domestic discipline side of things.  What do you think?

 

They don’t or at least most of the ones I’ve encountered.  There are some good non-fiction books on the subject but I haven’t seen really good fiction books.  They usually focus on the sexual activity and I understand why, because sex sells; but I don’t think the sex should be overly done as it is in so many of these types of books.  Submission and Dominance, when in effortless balance, in and of itself, has a deep sexual element.  My hope is to portray that sensuality in my books without having to be overly graphic in nature.

 

     Are your books selling well?

 

Yes.  It’s exciting to see that so many people are enjoying my stories and are asking for more.

 

        Do you get spanked on a regular basis?

 

I’m not sure how to define “regular” but yes, I know my place over the knee; and I do believe it is often a necessity.

 

     Have you experienced everything you write about?

 

That is a good question.  Yes, I have, with the exception of the fact that I’ve never tried to throw myself off of a balcony and I haven’t had sex with a hot fireman.  LOL.

 

     What is your most dreaded spanking implement?

 

The paddle with the holes in it.

 

     Why do you think spanking is so important in a relationship?

 

Well, for many of the same reasons you state in your blog.  It alleviates the feeling of being overwhelmed, helps adjust perspective, is emotionally calming, reduces tension, increases trust, gives a feeling of safety, proves a person is notices, accepted and loved, increases sexual bonding and ultimately brings partners closer together.  Sometimes love has to be tough love.  Often times tough love is the strongest of all.

 

 

     What would you like to say to my blog readers?

 

First, thank you for your interest in acquiring balance through submission and dominance.  Some of the happiest couples I know are those that employ this philosophy in their lives.  I wish you that same fulfillment.  Second, thank you for reading this interview and for your interest in my books.  Please tell your friends about my books.

 

     Where can we connect with you?

 

People can reach me on Facebook .  In fact, I would love it if you would “Like” my author page on Facebook.  You can also email me directly at AuthorSusanSanchez@gmail.com

 

You can also visit my Amazon Author page for more information on my books.

 

 

 

 

Exciting News!

Exciting News!

I got an email from the author of the Elise Dugar Episodes.  I guess my blog showed up linked to her name and so she was checking it out and saw that I was a fan of her books.  She's agreed to do an exclusive interview with me!  I'm so excited!  She said she'll give a sneak peek into what she's writing next. 

So, tune in on Wednesday (tomorrow) and meet author Susan Sanchez, author of the Elise Dugar Episodes.  If you haven't read them yet, you've got to read them!

If you don't know who I'm talking about, you can check her page out here:
http://www.amazon.com/Susan-Sanchez/e/B00GIA27C0/ref=ntt_athr_dp_pel_pop_1

Tune in tomorrow!

 

 

 

Heating Things Up

I just finished reading the fourth book in the Elise Dugar Episodes and they are just so good.  One of the reasons I like them is because they're short so when I get deep into the story it doesn't take up my whole day and get me into trouble for not getting done what I need to.  Second, I really like the perspective on submission and dominance.  Some books I've read in the past have had great stories but then the real-life sub/dom element is skewed or so far over the top that it loses it's realism for me.  I get frustrated when that happens.   Third, I like sex scenes but not ones that are SO graphic that it sort of gets distasteful.  The Elise Dugar Episode books are subtle and for me, it's the subtly that gets me turned on.  And it's not just a chick thing either.  My hubby likes them and that's saying a lot because he doesn't read much more than the newspaper.

Anyway, here's the latest book and the link to it if you want to pick it up.  It's cheap, cheap, cheap and totally worth the read.  I recommend reading it with your hubby but make sure you're alone because things are bound to heat up; maybe even your bottom!  :)

 

 

And for your viewing pleasure, here are some new pictures:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

A Better Me

Dominance and Submission dates back a long, long time, and so does punishment spankings.  There's a balance in the male/female psyche when the male is dominant and the female is submissive.  I know some people participate the other way around and that seems to work for them, which is good.  But, for me and my husband, we feel a carnal, instinctive urge toward the balance we find in his dominance and my submission. 

Men are by nature more logical than women.  Women are more emotional than men.  It's a good balance.  However, sometimes are emotions can run wild and affect our ability to make rational decisions.  Having a man there to help control the emotions is beneficial.  Maintenance spankings help a lot.  I am living proof that when my husband spanks me several times a week, I function better.  I am more tolerant of others, I am less stressed and tend to not feel overwhelmed by everything that's going on in our lives.  I've come to realize that when he maintains a strict schedule of maintenance or reminder spankings, I'm a better me.  I like that.  It's a simple solution to what would otherwise become a terrible situation.  We avoid big fights this way because, let's face it, when the woman in the house is at peace, so is the man.  It usually isn't the man of the house creating the emotional turmoil.  So, for me to go over his knee for a reminder spanking is little price to pay for harmony in our lives.  I can't stress enough how important maintenance spankings are.

This is the schedule we are on.  Keep in mind that my hubby travels some and works some from home.  When he's home I get spanked almost every day.  When he's gone he will either instruct me to give myself a spanking, which I've described in detail in past blogs, or he'll have me write down my infractions daily and he addresses them the moment he gets home.  It's hard for me when he's gone because I need to be disciplined and held accountable regularly.  Like I said, it makes me a better me.  I like myself more when I am being held accountable.  I like all of life more in fact.

Our schedule when he's home:

Monday - Friday Morning:  After I take our kids to school I come home and go straight to our bedroom and unclothe.  I lay over the bed naked with my bottom exposed.  He comes in, talks with me about the things we are working on and the improvements we want to see and then gives me a hard and long hand spanking.  After that, I bend over and touch my toes and he gives me twenty smacks with the leather strap.  This is to remind me of all we have talked about.  Then, it's corner time for three minutes to think about the spanking I just received.

Monday-Friday Afternoon:  Before the kids come home from school, my hubby and I will sit down and assess how the day has gone so far.  If he feels or if I feel I need more reminding, he'll spank me again.  If not, then he doesn't.

Monday-Friday Bedtime:  Before bed he gives me a spanking with the loopy johnny whip because it's quiet.  Usually this is a short spanking, but boy does that whip sting.

If I have earned a punishment spanking throughout the day, he either gives it to me right away or waits until the next morning and adds it to my maintenance spanking.

On weekends, whenever we find time alone, he will usually give me a quick reminder spanking, but most of the time weekends only involve discipline spankings when I have done something to be punished, which can be often at times, depending on my attitude.

There are days when I get a spanking up to four times and my bum really hurts.  I don't like those days so I try really hard to avoid them. But going over his knee once or twice a day keeps me in line and makes me feel carefree and even joyful afterwards.  It melts away my stress.  I hear a lot of people say that they don't experience the same afterglow and I think that's because they are probably not being spanked to tears and not being properly spoken to during the spanking.  It's important for the man to verbally chastise while punishing so that the woman can make a clear connection between her action or behavior and the punishment.  Here's an example:

This happened a while ago, when long distance fees still existed and they were incredibly high.  Anyway, I have a friend in London and she and I talked over two hours.  I had called her.  I don't want to tell you the amount of money that call cost because to this day my butt stings when I think of it.  I got a hard spanking, in fact, I got many hard spankings; but it was how my hubby handled it that drove the point home. 

As he put me over his knee, he said:  "You knew the time limits for long distance calls and you intentionally disregarded the rules.  This has cost us a lot of money.  It was selfish of you to waste that money.  You were disobedient and frivolous and showed a clear disrespect for the rules we laid out together.  For all of that, I'm going to discipline you."

I was already in tears before he even started to spank me.  But the key was that WHILE HE SPANKED ME, he chastised me.  While smacking my bottom he would say, "I will not tolerate your disobedience."  So with every smack I knew I was being punished for disobedience.  It might sound silly, but it's important and it works.  I've never exceeded my long distance (and now my cell phone limit) ever again!

The long and the short of it is, spanking serves a purpose for the man and the woman.  Balance. Harmony.  Love.  An afterglow that is unexplainable.  I am grateful to have a man that loves me enough to help me become a better me. 

Ouch!

 

Another spanking on an already red bottom..........

 

 

Dropping my Pants like F-bombs

My husband doesn’t like it when I curse.  It’s one of the things on my list of things for which I get disciplined.  Honestly, I don’t want to use bad language either but sometimes it just flows out of me.  Whenever I am upset or mad or feel there’s been an injustice or in pain or frustrated, well, you get the picture.  I tend to teeter on the edge of cursing a lot.

Today, my husband came up from his office downstairs right as I was talking to a girlfriend on the phone and venting some of my frustration.  I dropped several f-bombs before I realized he was in the room.  He told me to get off of the phone and bare my bottom immediately, which, of course I didn’t do because my girlfriend was in the middle of talking and it would have been rude to interrupt her.  That made my hubby twice as mad.

“Tell her you’ll call her back and hang up the phone now,” he said.

Finally, about ten minutes later when my girlfriend stopped talking, I made up an excuse why I had to go.  My husband had left a note for me on the kitchen table that read:  “Go get my black belt, the cane and the loopy johnny whip, get naked and come to my office.”

I got butterflies in my stomach when I saw the note.  I knew I was in for a big beating.  Part of me thought to grab my car keys and leave, but I knew once I returned it would be even worse.  So, I fetched the tools, took off my clothes and walked downstairs to his office.  He took the tools from me and told me to stand in the corner.  I did.  He told me that if I was going to be dropping F-bombs then I was going to be dropping my pants.  

 

After a few minutes in the corner, he took me over his knee and gave me a hard, hard, hard spanking with his hand.  My butt was burning hot already when he was through and told me to bend over the arm of the sofa.  He rarely makes me count swats, but he did today and I counted 55 swats with his belt.  My butt was on fire and I was fighting back the urge to cry.  He moved me to the coffee table and instructed me to bend over and place my hands on the table, sticking my butt out toward him.  He then gave me 25 lashes with the cane.  I finally cried.  The cane hurts really bad.  Back over his knee I went for forty swats with the loopy johnny whip while he lectured me on how the F word is not appropriate for a lady to say and should not be said in our home. 

I hope I’ve learned my lesson this time.  My bottom stings even as I sit here typing this.  I wish I didn’t curse and I’m going to try really hard to do better, otherwise I won’t be able to sit down EVER.

After my spanking was over, he kissed me and told me I had a clean slate.  He then told me to try and keep it clean longer than I had kept it clean before.  I’m going to try.  It never ceases to amaze me how much he loves me and how right I feel whenever he holds me accountable to the things in myself that I want to change.  I can’t do it alone and though I don’t like to be punished, I do like the fact that he’s strong enough to take me under his authority and give me a spanking when I need it.  A lot of people think this is strange, but I think it’s wonderful. 

Belted

I've been reading these books on discipline and I've blogged about a couple of them.  Well, this last one I thought was so good I shared it with my hubby, who made the comment that the way the man in book responded was exactly how he would have responded too.  It led us to some pretty deep conversations.  For example:  In the book the man spanks the woman in the stairwell of their apartment building where anyone could have walked in and seen or even overheard what was happening. 

I asked my hubby:  Would you spank me somewhere public like that, where someone might see us?

He said:  If you did to me what she did to him I'd have dragged your ass into the middle of the street and whipped you in plain sight of everyone.

Me:  Whoaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.  That would not be good.

We ended up arguing about what the man could and couldn't do, what was considered "right" or "wrong" and "fair" or "unfair."

Needless to say it escalated into a full on fight and I ended up bent over the counter in the kitchen getting a whipping with his belt.  He chose the belt because that was the name of the book:  Belting Love

He gave me a hard whipping for my attitude and then took me over his knee right before bed for a reminder spanking.  My butt was burning as I crawled into bed.

 

Anyway, despite the fact that I got in trouble ..........AGAIN........ I really am enjoying these books.  If you're an Amazon Prime member like me you can download them for free!  Just click on the pics for the links:

I totally recommend them for men and women, and they are really hot when you read them together.  But watch out for the discussions that follow.  They can get you into a bit of trouble.  :)