Happy New Year DD friends!
We hope the new year will bring you resolutions of good
behavior and when the behavior slips, we hope you will have good discipline in
tact to provide stability in your home.
May you have more maintenance and less punishment spankings this year.
We decided to start 2016 off with some important information
about how to bring balance and keep balance in your home.
Follow these steps and we guarantee you will find harmony in
your relationship:
1. 1. Sit down
with your partner and write in a maintenance spanking schedule on your
calendar. If it is in writing it will be
that much easier to stick to. **This is
especially important for couples who spend a lot of time apart due to their
careers. Choose the date and time and
then stick to it.
2. 2. Re-evaluate your improvement list and add to it
any new resolutions you have made.
3. 3. Assign a punishment value to every item on the
list. **We have found that this is
highly effective in deterring mis-behavior.
i.e. if she knows that ignoring her exercise plan will result in a
consistent outpouring of 50 lashes with the cane, she will be more prone to
make the choice to do the exercise.
4. 4. Also assign a position to the list. Your list might look something like this:
Cursing - 25 swats with belt for each curse
word - OTK
Attitude - 50 swats with the hairbrush for
each occurrence - Bent over bed
Exercise - 50 caning swats -
Standing with fingers locked behind head
Maintenance - 10 minute hand spanking - OTK
Over-spending -
Lying -
Adultery -
And so on and so forth. The new year is the time to assign new values
and new positions and then commit yourself to stick to them.
5. 5. Corner time is a MUST and you need to re-commit
to enforcing it. **Some women are
opposed to corner time because they feel it is humiliating so derive an
alternative. A very effective
alternative is to have her lie naked over the edge of the bed with her bottom
exposed and write down why she is about to be punished and how she can avoid punishment
in the future. This is less humiliating for the woman and it allows her to
visually process her behavior as she writes it down. It also gives the husband something to review
with her before he begins the discipline session.
6. 6. Get rid of the excuses! **The biggest excuse we hear is that couples
are rarely alone to execute punishment when needed. This is fixable with a commitment from both
parties. If there are people in your
home when punishment is earned, then leave your home. Drive to a vacant parking lot, a vacant road,
climb into the backseat and provide the discipline that is needed. Don’t allow yourself to make excuses. **If children are in the home, pretend to
take a shower, turn on the water, the bathroom fan, lock the doors, provide a
pillow for the partner being punished to cry into and use a silent tool. It CAN be done and it MUST be done!
7. 7. Guilt-Release Session **We are learning more and more that women
carry more guilt than men. With regards
to day-to-day issues men are able to release guilt faster and easier than women. So, gents, it is your responsibility to help
bring your wife or partner relief from the guilt she is experiencing and there’s
no better time than the new year to start things off right!
WHAT A GUILT-RELEASE SESSION LOOKS LIKE
a.
The wife
writes down a list of all of the things she feels guilty about. This list might be day-to-day things, people
she’s let down, mistakes she’s made in the past or present, etc. Every woman is different and her list will be
unique to her life experiences.
b.
Sit down together and read the list. This is not a time for judgment or a time to
argue that she should or should not feel the way she feels. If an item is on the list, she is feeling
guilty about it, and thusly it must be addressed in order for her to feel
relief. **Many women will cry just in
sharing the list because they have a great amount of shame or humiliation
attached to the issues they have written down.
This is normal and not an indication that they do not want to
follow-through with the session.
c.
Depending on the length of the list, it may need
to be broken down into more than one session.
This is permissible, but try to keep the sessions all in the same
day. i.e. one in the morning, one in the
afternoon, one in the evening.
d.
Assign a punishment value to each item and write
those next to the item.
e.
During the session, eye-contact is extremely
important for two reasons: 1) Looking
you in the eyes as you discuss the item makes her take full ownership in
it. 2) Looking you in the eyes allows
her to see your forgiveness and your unconditional love for her. It makes her feel secure that even in her
worse offense, you will not allow her to destroy the relationship. Your strength
will bring your relationship back to a place of balance.
f.
Address each item verbally first and then
administer the punishment. **Sometimes
an item prompts questions like, “what were you thinking?” or “why would you do
that?” This is okay. Husbands will often encounter an item on her
list that arises feelings of anger in them and that is acceptable. Putting her over your knee is a means of
cleansing both of you, acknowledging the anger she has made you feel and
punishing her for the behavior, ultimately restoring balance in the relationship.
8. 8. She must be naked during a discipline
session. **Couples try to squirm around
this one but it is crucial to the success of DD. Her nakedness is a symbol of her submission
to you and of stripping down all exterior factors that stand between you.
9. 9. Immediate Punishment is of the utmost important
because it is what builds her trust in your ability to lead the home. **Men, you must prove to her that your word
is true and thusly you must do what you say you are going to do. The more she trusts your follow-through, the
quicker she will learn to submit to you and the more peaceful your relationship
will be.
1 10. Alone time after a punishment session is needed
for at least 3-5 minutes for her to process her behavior and your strength in
correcting her. After the time has
lapsed, come back to her and then be affectionate. **We are learning more and more that
immediate sexual gratification is inhibiting the dominant-submissive
connection, but adding in affection after a short time of reflection
strengthens the connection.
That’s it!
Your top ten new year’s resolutions to start the year off aces!
This message was sent to our newsletter patrons as well but we thought it was helpful and wanted to share with everyone! Happy New Year!
P.S. Now, I'm off to get a spanking for being 6 days late at getting the newsletter out. He asked me three times to get it down and I kept procrastinating. I am sorry for my delay and I know in about 15 minutes I'm going to be a whole lot sorrier. He's already laid his belt across the chair and my stomach is trembling with anticipation. This will be my first punishment spanking of 2016 and I'm certain he's going to make it leave a lasting impression.
