Heather hasn't been blogging lately because her attitude has been less than desirable and her blogs were not uplifting, so she deleted them. In her absence she has received a lot of emails asking where she is and if she's going to be continuing her blog. The answer is yes. January for us held a new awakening in discipline and she is excited to tell you about it. First we decided it would be best if I presented a husband view and answered some of the male questions, and then she will begin blogging and sharing from the female perspective and answer those questions.
Being the man and the head of the household isn't always easy. I think some people get it in their heads that I always want to discipline my wife when that isn't the case. There are times when she needs a spanking but I don't feel like doing it. It's at those times when I have to press forward and honor my commitment to her and to us and take her over my knee. As the head of the home, it is my job to maintain peace and order so keeping a tight handle on my wife's attitude and respectful behavior is imperative to the overall health and harmony in our home.
Men, you must follow these simple rules if discipline is going to work for you:
1. Conduct a boot camp at least once every quarter. It serves as a reminder to her of the difference between punishment spankings and maintenance spankings and it will make her appreciate the maintenance ones. It also helps teach her to be submissive in attitude, not weak, submissive. It takes a woman a great deal of strength to submit to a man. Don't underestimate this and your job to teach her how to do it.
2. Give her a reminder paddling every night before bed. If she objects, increase the paddling. She will sleep better and wake up with a good outlook on life.
3. Remember gentleman that a hard spanking provides your love with emotional release that inevitably lowers her stress level, calms her irritability and fights depression. You are literally doing her a favor by giving her a hard throttling and you should, for this reason, spank her bottom until she cries and achieves the needed release. If you quit too soon you have done nothing for either of you.
4. A spanking session is also a release for you, men, and that is acceptable. If she has made you angry, it is acceptable to paddle her and release that anger.
5. You must send her to the corner with her panties down and her bare red bottom exposed. This is an act of submission that she must do. If she objects spank her until she is more agreeable.
6. Kids at home is not a reason to avoid a spanking so don't allow her to use this excuse. It is the number one excuse women use to get out of being punished. Get a signal and a quiet tool so the children or guests in your home will not know. Touch your belt and motion her upstairs or downstairs. Step into a bathroom and turn on the fan and the shower, or go into the bedroom and lock the door. Paddle her hard and fast with a silent tool (a hangar works like magic) until she cries. Reprimand her quietly while you give her a hearty spanking. If she objects, add to the punishment. By this I mean, if you cannot spank her longer right then, you tell her she is to come back to this room in thirty minutes for another beating.
7. Know your list of infractions and hold her accountable for every item on the list. If she curses, issue a beating immediately. If she overspends her limit, issue a beating immediately. If she backtalks or disrespects your authority, pull her pants down right then and there and give her a thrashing. YOU control whether she succeeds at learning submission.
8. If you travel as I do, it is harder but not impossible. The first night you get home, give her a spanking as a reminder of the behavior you expect to see in her. Impose upon her that she keeps a journal while you are away in which she makes note of her infractions. Hold her accountable for each one with a solid spanking.
9. If her behavior slips while in public, take her into a family-style restroom that locks and whip her with your belt. If a restroom is not available, take her into the parking lot and give her a whipping in the back of the car. Even the smallest of cars can accommodate a spanking. If you are unable to take care of it right at the moment, tell her privately that when you are alone in the car or at home that she is to take down her pants and remind you that she has earned a punishment spanking. If you put the burden of remembering on her, it will impact her that much more.
10. You cannot spank your wife too much or too often. The worst mistake is to make her feel like you don't care and the way in which you do that is to stop holding her accountable. Her bottom should bare your handprint or the marks of your belt 24/7.
Good luck, gents!