Waiting

It's been a while since I've blogged but that doesn't mean it's been a while since I've had my bottom spanked.  My husband took the pre-spanking blogging requirement off of my list for a while but added it back on today because he said we've been getting a lot of emails requesting the blog to be updated.  So here I am writing this while waiting to be disciplined.  Actually, I'm waiting to be punished and I know that I've got what's coming.

For the past six or seven months I've really only gotten maintenance spankings with the exception of two instances when I earned a punishment and he gave me a walloping.  The first was when I had had too much to drink and I got mouthy with him and with his brother and his wife.  We disagreed on some issues that I won't go into here but my hubby wasn't happy with the way I handled myself at dinner.  He warned me twice by giving me a look and touching his belt buckle, which is the sign that I am treading on thin ice, but I didn't care.  I had drank too much and I was hell bent on saying my piece.  He excused us to the bathroom, bent me over the sink and whipped my bare bottom until I was red, sore and apologizing.

The second instance was when I spent too much money on the credit card, which is now a new item added to my list.  I knew I had gone overboard but I guess I was hoping he wouldn't notice.  When the bill came, he called me to his office in the basement, showed me the charges and then informed me that after the kids were in bed I was going to be punished.  That night he took me down to his office, locked the basement door so the kids couldn't come down, took off all of my clothes and had me stand in the corner for 3 minutes.  The anticipation was killing me.  He then bent me over the top of his desk, and gave me a whipping, first with his belt, then the wooden paddle and then the cane.  I was crying when he sent me back to the corner for another 3 minutes to think about why I was being punished.  After that, he put me over his knee and spanked me long and hard until I sobbed.  I was crying more from the embarrassment of earning the punishment than from physical pain, though it does hurt when he paddles me.

Other than those two times, I've only received maintenance or reminder spankings, except for the one that's about to happen now.  This punishment is coming because of  a culmination of my attitude and my jealousy, which he doesn't tolerate, especially since he hasn't given me any reason to be jealous. I know I need to be disciplined and I know I will be better after it, but I still get anxious and fearful that it's going to hurt.  He took the kids to school and before leaving, instructed me to take off my clothes and post this blog explaining what was going to happen.  He told me that when he gets home, he will put me in the corner so that I can solely focus on the reason I am getting punished.  Then I will bend over the side of the bed and he will stand behind me and spank me with the strap.  It always hurts more when he stands instead of sits because it has a greater sting.  That is for my attitude.  Then he will bend me over the dresser and whip me with the cane, for my cursing.  Next, I will go over his knee for a paddling with the wooden ping pong paddle.  And then he'll finish up with a handspanking over his knee.

So here I sit, my bare bottom exposed and waiting for his correction upon it.

Quiet Spankings When Kids Are Home

One of the questions we are ask most often is how can couples administer discipline when there are children in the home?  This makes things challenging for sure, but it can be done.  It takes a huge commitment to obedience and follow-thru.

Here are some pointers:

1.  Invest in a silent tool like a Loopy Johnny or a plastic hanger will work.

2.  Get a mindset that spankings will be quick and quiet and that any type of sexual gratifications will most likely be delayed until later.

3.  Come up with a code that the children do not recognize, but that tells your partner to go to the designated room and prepare for a spanking.   (If our children are home my husband touches the front of his belt buckle and I know that I need to go prepare.)

4.  The bathroom is a good place to administer discipline because you can turn on the shower or the fan to mask sound.

5.  Administer quick swats with a silent tool and then follow it with corner time.  If the message hasn't gotten through, administer another set of swats followed by more corner time.

6.  The moment an infraction is made issue discipline immediately.  This is crucial to the success of the dominant/submissive, loving relationship.  If you do not hold your partner accountable immediately they will begin to dis-respect your authority and they will begin to feel unloved and unnoticed.

7.  Don't make the mistake of taking it easy or being overly gentle during discipline.  If a rule was broken, punishment is earned.  It's that simple.  You are not being mean by giving your partner the discipline they deserve.  In fact, if you intentionally don't give a harsh spanking that has been earned, you are causing more damage than good.

8.  If you are new to DD or if you have taken a long break from it for whatever reasons, start over with a training period/boot camp.  That means each morning begin the day with a maintenance or reminder paddling and naked corner time.  Again, the bathroom is the ideal place for this.  Get up before the kids are awake, have your partner strip naked, bend her over the sink or the tub or your lap and issue a sound spanking with a quiet tool.  Send her immediately to the corner so that she can process your authority and her decision to submit to it.  This is very important to start her day off with the right mindset.  Likewise, before bed, after the kids are asleep, give her another maintenance spanking or address issues where she may have wavered in attitude or action during the day.  The goal is that every time she sits down she is reminded of your love and the safety of your authority.


These steps will help you but you've got to commit to doing them.  No arguing and no begging.  We have a rule in our home, if I argue or beg, it's 50 swats with his belt on top of whatever discipline I have already earned.

Exposure!

I'm so excited!  My hubby just walked in the room and handed me my kindle and on it is the new Susan Sanchez book!!!!!!!!  He downloaded it for me! I can't wait to read it!  It's called EXPOSURE!

You guys might remember I interviewed the author a while back and she told me that her short stories are really just sort of like teasers leading up to her full-length novel about Elise Dugar.  I can't wait until that comes out! We need more fiction stories on domestic discipline that accurately depict it.  That's what I love about these books.  They have some sex, which is true to life experience, but they also totally tap into the emotional and psychological benefits of spanking.

Here's a pic of the new book:

Here is the information on Amazon:  http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00HRIE9BE

If you haven't read the Susan Sanchez books, you're missing out!  They're easy reads and I would say even gripping, like I think about them long after I've put my kindle down for the day.  It's a series so you should start with the first one, though I think you could probably pick up any of them out of sequence and still get a feel for the characters; but if you want my advice, start with book one.

Okay, gotta fly, I'm off to read EXPOSURE!!  

A Spanking New Perspective

I stumbled upon this short story on spanking and I have to say I really enjoyed it.  I was sort of sifting through ebooks looking for something that wouldn't be so time consuming, or at least not as time consuming as a full length book, and I found an author named Susan Sanchez.  Supposedly, she's coming out with a series of short spanking stories, which I think is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO exciting!  The one I read is called "A Spanking New Perspective" and it got me all hot and bothered.  In fact, I was so worked up I sneaked into my hubby's office downstairs and asked him for a maintenance spanking.

Those of you who read my blog or know me know that I don't need to ask for a maintenance spanking, as my hubby is pretty thorough and consistent with dishing it out.  But this book got me in the mood, which doesn't happen often with books or movies, which happen to be lacking in realism when it comes to this topic.

Anyway, here's the link to the book.  I bought it on Smashwords but I think I saw it on Amazon too.  It was only $0.99 usd so totally worth the money!

Hope you guys like it as much as I did!