Waiting

It's been a while since I've blogged but that doesn't mean it's been a while since I've had my bottom spanked.  My husband took the pre-spanking blogging requirement off of my list for a while but added it back on today because he said we've been getting a lot of emails requesting the blog to be updated.  So here I am writing this while waiting to be disciplined.  Actually, I'm waiting to be punished and I know that I've got what's coming.

For the past six or seven months I've really only gotten maintenance spankings with the exception of two instances when I earned a punishment and he gave me a walloping.  The first was when I had had too much to drink and I got mouthy with him and with his brother and his wife.  We disagreed on some issues that I won't go into here but my hubby wasn't happy with the way I handled myself at dinner.  He warned me twice by giving me a look and touching his belt buckle, which is the sign that I am treading on thin ice, but I didn't care.  I had drank too much and I was hell bent on saying my piece.  He excused us to the bathroom, bent me over the sink and whipped my bare bottom until I was red, sore and apologizing.

The second instance was when I spent too much money on the credit card, which is now a new item added to my list.  I knew I had gone overboard but I guess I was hoping he wouldn't notice.  When the bill came, he called me to his office in the basement, showed me the charges and then informed me that after the kids were in bed I was going to be punished.  That night he took me down to his office, locked the basement door so the kids couldn't come down, took off all of my clothes and had me stand in the corner for 3 minutes.  The anticipation was killing me.  He then bent me over the top of his desk, and gave me a whipping, first with his belt, then the wooden paddle and then the cane.  I was crying when he sent me back to the corner for another 3 minutes to think about why I was being punished.  After that, he put me over his knee and spanked me long and hard until I sobbed.  I was crying more from the embarrassment of earning the punishment than from physical pain, though it does hurt when he paddles me.

Other than those two times, I've only received maintenance or reminder spankings, except for the one that's about to happen now.  This punishment is coming because of  a culmination of my attitude and my jealousy, which he doesn't tolerate, especially since he hasn't given me any reason to be jealous. I know I need to be disciplined and I know I will be better after it, but I still get anxious and fearful that it's going to hurt.  He took the kids to school and before leaving, instructed me to take off my clothes and post this blog explaining what was going to happen.  He told me that when he gets home, he will put me in the corner so that I can solely focus on the reason I am getting punished.  Then I will bend over the side of the bed and he will stand behind me and spank me with the strap.  It always hurts more when he stands instead of sits because it has a greater sting.  That is for my attitude.  Then he will bend me over the dresser and whip me with the cane, for my cursing.  Next, I will go over his knee for a paddling with the wooden ping pong paddle.  And then he'll finish up with a handspanking over his knee.

So here I sit, my bare bottom exposed and waiting for his correction upon it.

Quiet Spankings When Kids Are Home

One of the questions we are ask most often is how can couples administer discipline when there are children in the home?  This makes things challenging for sure, but it can be done.  It takes a huge commitment to obedience and follow-thru.

Here are some pointers:

1.  Invest in a silent tool like a Loopy Johnny or a plastic hanger will work.

2.  Get a mindset that spankings will be quick and quiet and that any type of sexual gratifications will most likely be delayed until later.

3.  Come up with a code that the children do not recognize, but that tells your partner to go to the designated room and prepare for a spanking.   (If our children are home my husband touches the front of his belt buckle and I know that I need to go prepare.)

4.  The bathroom is a good place to administer discipline because you can turn on the shower or the fan to mask sound.

5.  Administer quick swats with a silent tool and then follow it with corner time.  If the message hasn't gotten through, administer another set of swats followed by more corner time.

6.  The moment an infraction is made issue discipline immediately.  This is crucial to the success of the dominant/submissive, loving relationship.  If you do not hold your partner accountable immediately they will begin to dis-respect your authority and they will begin to feel unloved and unnoticed.

7.  Don't make the mistake of taking it easy or being overly gentle during discipline.  If a rule was broken, punishment is earned.  It's that simple.  You are not being mean by giving your partner the discipline they deserve.  In fact, if you intentionally don't give a harsh spanking that has been earned, you are causing more damage than good.

8.  If you are new to DD or if you have taken a long break from it for whatever reasons, start over with a training period/boot camp.  That means each morning begin the day with a maintenance or reminder paddling and naked corner time.  Again, the bathroom is the ideal place for this.  Get up before the kids are awake, have your partner strip naked, bend her over the sink or the tub or your lap and issue a sound spanking with a quiet tool.  Send her immediately to the corner so that she can process your authority and her decision to submit to it.  This is very important to start her day off with the right mindset.  Likewise, before bed, after the kids are asleep, give her another maintenance spanking or address issues where she may have wavered in attitude or action during the day.  The goal is that every time she sits down she is reminded of your love and the safety of your authority.


These steps will help you but you've got to commit to doing them.  No arguing and no begging.  We have a rule in our home, if I argue or beg, it's 50 swats with his belt on top of whatever discipline I have already earned.

My Infraction List - About to Get a BIG ONE

I'm sitting here with my panties off, waiting for a spanking that I know will be a long and painful one. I also know I've earned it.

Part of my discipline is to write down all of the reasons why I need to be disciplined and today he asked me to write those reasons into my blog.  So here goes:

1.  My language has been foul even in front of other people and I know that is forbidden.  I know I have the power to choose my own words and when I drop the F word it is a choice I am making and that choice comes with consequences.  My bottom is going to pay the price this morning.

2. I haven't been good at exercising and I've asked him to help me stay on track.  When I get lazy with my body I know I have earned a solid lashing to remind me to take care of myself.

3.  I have had a very negative attitude recently and I know I am due for an attitude adjustment in the form of a paddling.

4.  I've been disrespectful and even hurtful to my husband and I don't want to treat him that way.  I know that going over his knee will remind me that he is on my side and he deserves my respect.

5.  Jealousy.  There's this woman at his work that likes to flirt with him.  It's harmless and I know he won't do anything but it bothers me and sometimes I let my mind run away with me.  This week I accused him of flirting with her, which he didn't really do.

The waiting is the worst part.  He'll come in with that look on his face and we'll talk about all of these things.  It's hard to look him in the eyes and discuss the fact that I'm going to receive a spanking.  Even after all of this time I get embarrassed and humiliated, but I know that I am better when he disciplines me.  I feel better.  I get a sense of release and a calmness and I feel his love when he takes action.  I know it isn't always easy on him to punish me, but he does it anyway because he knows it makes me and us better and for that I adore him.

I've just been told to sign off and bend over the bed with my bare bottom exposed and think about my forthcoming punishment, so I have to go.

Baring It All

This is a happy, happy, happy Thanksgiving for me!  My husband downloaded the new Elise Dugar Episodes book for me, called BARING IT ALL.  Oooooh, it's good, good, good!!!

Elise gets spanked on the rooftop of the hospital where she works.  It's an awesome scene and sexy, very, very hot!

 

I just love Susan Sanchez stories. I hope you guys like them as much as I do.  Of course it doesn't hurt that they cost less than a buck too, and the fact that they not only get me hot but they get my hubby going too.  It's a win, win, win for us!

You can view the book here.

Belted

I've been reading these books on discipline and I've blogged about a couple of them.  Well, this last one I thought was so good I shared it with my hubby, who made the comment that the way the man in book responded was exactly how he would have responded too.  It led us to some pretty deep conversations.  For example:  In the book the man spanks the woman in the stairwell of their apartment building where anyone could have walked in and seen or even overheard what was happening. 

I asked my hubby:  Would you spank me somewhere public like that, where someone might see us?

He said:  If you did to me what she did to him I'd have dragged your ass into the middle of the street and whipped you in plain sight of everyone.

Me:  Whoaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.  That would not be good.

We ended up arguing about what the man could and couldn't do, what was considered "right" or "wrong" and "fair" or "unfair."

Needless to say it escalated into a full on fight and I ended up bent over the counter in the kitchen getting a whipping with his belt.  He chose the belt because that was the name of the book:  Belting Love

He gave me a hard whipping for my attitude and then took me over his knee right before bed for a reminder spanking.  My butt was burning as I crawled into bed.

 

Anyway, despite the fact that I got in trouble ..........AGAIN........ I really am enjoying these books.  If you're an Amazon Prime member like me you can download them for free!  Just click on the pics for the links:

I totally recommend them for men and women, and they are really hot when you read them together.  But watch out for the discussions that follow.  They can get you into a bit of trouble.  :)