A Very Merry Shade of Red

The holidays are a hard time of year for me because I get so overloaded with stuff to do and getting ready for Christmas just gets tiring.  Because of this I get cranky and last night my husband had had enough of my crankiness.  He waiting until our kids were in bed and then he said to me, "Go upstairs, pull down your pants and stand in the corner and wait for me."

I said, "Why?!!!"

He said, "Because you need an attitude adjustment and I'm sick of being treated disrespectfully."

I was pissed off.  I stormed upstairs and stood in the corner but I didn't pull down my pants.  I was going to show him!

When he came up and saw that I hadn't done as he asked, he went to the closet and got a plastic hangar.  The plastic hangar stings like hell and is pretty silent.  He then pulled a chair into the center of the room and sat down, instructing me to come over to him.  I did and while he told me that he was going to not only punish me for my bad attitude and crankiness, but also for my disobedience, he unhooked my jeans and pulled them down.  He then pulled down my panties and ran his index finger quickly over my pussy.  "I was going to pleasure you tonight, but it seems you're more in need of a hard spanking."

"NO!" I said, "I would much rather you pleasured me."

"Maybe you should think about that next time you decide to disobey."  With that, he pulled me over the top of his knees and spanked me with the hangar.  I tried to block him a couple of times which resulted in more swats.  I don't know how many swats he gave me, but it was long and hard enough that my butt was on fire when he sent me back to the corner and went to fetch the Loopy Johnny.  That's the whip he uses for my language and for my attitude when we have to be quiet.  This time he had me bend over the bed and he stood behind me and gave me a long beating with the Loopy Johnny.  He told me he wasn't going to stop until I cried and was truly remorseful and he sure didn't.  When I finally sobbed into the pillow and said I was sorry, then he put me back in the corner to think about it.  My butt was burning and felt red hot to the touch. Even today when I sit down I can still feel a stinging sensation on my cheeks.

He informed me last night laying in bed that it was time for us to do another jump start program, which means I'm going to get a spanking every day for a while.  He says my attitude needs to be checked and kept in line and there is evidence to prove that a spanking a day keeps the crankiness away.  He's right, though I don't like it.  It looks like my butt is going to be a very merry shade of red for the holidays.

Malled at the Mall

I got a spanking yesterday in public.  I don’t think anyone saw, but they could have.  I deserved it but I wish my husband would have waited until we were home.  We went shopping at a local mall and I was exhausted.  I hadn’t slept well because he had been traveling and I just don’t sleep very good when he’s gone.  He wanted to do some holiday shopping and I didn’t feel like it.  After about an hour of dragging me from store to store, I got mouthy and he had finally had enough.  In Nordstrom’s he pulled me into the dressing room and gave me a private warning stating that if I didn’t improve my attitude quickly, he was going to take me into the bathroom and give me a stern beating.  Needless to say, my attitude didn’t get any better. 

 

He took me by the hand and led me to one of the “family” bathrooms.  They are single rooms with doors that lock.  The moment I saw where we were going I began to beg and promise him I would be better, but it was too late at that point.  I could see the frustration and anger in his face.  He took me inside, slid the bolt to lock the door and took off his belt.  Then he told me to drop my pants and bend over and place my hands on the wall in front of me.  I started to object but realized any objection was going to make my punishment harder.  I pulled down my jeans and slid my panties to my knees and then put my hands on the wall like he asked.

 

“Why are you being disciplined?” He asked.

“Because I’ve had a bad attitude,” I replied.

“Have I asked you to improve your attitude?”

“Yes.”

“How many times did I ask you?”  He asked.

“At least three or four,” I answered.

“Didn’t I take you to lunch as promised?”  He said, and he had.  He had taken me to one of my favorite little Mexican places near the mall.  I had a margarita which probably added to my feeling tired.

“Yes,” I said and then before he could say anything else I told him I didn’t want to be spanked in public and that I was worried someone might hear.  He said he didn’t care and that he’d take me into the middle of the mall and paddle me right there in front of everyone if that’s what he needed to do to get his point across.  After that, I didn’t argue.

He gave me twenty fast slaps with his hand on my bare bottom and I knew that was just to warm me up for the belting that was coming.  The slaps echoed in the room and I tried not to cry out.  Then he stood back and brought his belt across my bottom.  It stung and I yelped the first few times.  He whipped me hard until I broke into sobs, apologizing. 

My bottom was still super hot when I pulled up my pants.  “We’re not done,” he said sternly.  “When we get home you’re going straight to the corner and then I’m going to give you a hard spanking so you’ll remember to watch your attitude going forward.”

We made it as far as the car before my pants were around my knees again and I was bent over the back seat for a hard and fast hand spanking.  Sometimes I just can’t control my mouth.  Thankfully, no one was walking by at the time because they would have thought he was beating me.  He opened the front and rear car doors and I bent forward over the backseat.  He spanked me hard and I could feel his frustration.  He made me ride home with my pants and panties down.    I cried most of the way home.  I was mad at myself and my butt was on fire against the material of the seat.  Worse still was the anticipation building in my stomach, knowing that right when we got home I had another walloping coming. 

The kids were at school so he didn’t wait to get me upstairs.  The minute we walked into the kitchen, he grabbed a spatula and bent me over the counter.  This was the hardest paddling yet and after a ten minute whipping I was sent to our bedroom naked.    He came in a few minutes later and talked with me and rubbed my red bottom.  I felt calm and peaceful.  It’s amazing how his discipline in my life makes me feel so much better.  A good paddling, or three of them, had helped me find my smile and for that I am very thankful.

 

Happy Spanksgiving!

Happy Spanksgiving everyone!

 

Sometimes discipline has to be administered even on a holiday.  Looks like I'm on my way to the bathroom to get a quiet paddling.  I dropped an accidental F-bomb and I know my husband caught it because he gave me "the look."  Now, I'm waiting for him to come find me and tell me to go bare my bottom and wait for him.

Waiting is so hard sometimes.  I know I deserve what's coming and I want him to hold me accountable, but at the same time, the silent loopy johnny whip really hurts.

Me and my big mouth!

 

Happy Spanksgiving!

Baring It All

This is a happy, happy, happy Thanksgiving for me!  My husband downloaded the new Elise Dugar Episodes book for me, called BARING IT ALL.  Oooooh, it's good, good, good!!!

Elise gets spanked on the rooftop of the hospital where she works.  It's an awesome scene and sexy, very, very hot!

 

I just love Susan Sanchez stories. I hope you guys like them as much as I do.  Of course it doesn't hurt that they cost less than a buck too, and the fact that they not only get me hot but they get my hubby going too.  It's a win, win, win for us!

You can view the book here.

New Favorite Pics

Some of my new found favorite pics.  Hope you enjoy and have a very happy holiday season!

 

 

 

Submissive Susan

I am excited to share part of my conversation with Susan Sanchez, author of the Elise Dugar Episodes, a short story series on submission and domestic discipline.  She was very entertaining and I can’t wait to read her next books.  She zeros down on the true sensuality of submission and dominance in a way that I think a lot of writers miss; but that’s because she has a better understanding of it than most.  Susan Sanchez isn’t just an erotica writer, she’s a believer in the baring the bottom for the sake of love. 

 

What made you decide to write about submission and dominance?

 

I have seen personally and through others the benefits of this type of relational equilibrium, so I thought I would put it into words through short stories.

 

 

     Are you going to write more than the Elise Dugar Episodes?

 

Yes.  I’m actually writing a full-length novel about this type of balance.

 

 

     Would you consider your work to be similar to Fifty Shades of Grey?

 

No.  I enjoyed reading that series but the kink got a little old for me after a while.  I found myself skimming through those parts to get back to the story.  For me the hottest scenes in that series were the ones where she was spanked, plain and simple, without all of the tying up.  My books don’t include bondage.  They are simply about the freedom that comes with submission and the harmony derived from a submissive/dominant relationship.

 

                I love your books.  I, too, have felt that a lot of the books out there don’t realistically depict the domestic discipline side of things.  What do you think?

 

They don’t or at least most of the ones I’ve encountered.  There are some good non-fiction books on the subject but I haven’t seen really good fiction books.  They usually focus on the sexual activity and I understand why, because sex sells; but I don’t think the sex should be overly done as it is in so many of these types of books.  Submission and Dominance, when in effortless balance, in and of itself, has a deep sexual element.  My hope is to portray that sensuality in my books without having to be overly graphic in nature.

 

     Are your books selling well?

 

Yes.  It’s exciting to see that so many people are enjoying my stories and are asking for more.

 

        Do you get spanked on a regular basis?

 

I’m not sure how to define “regular” but yes, I know my place over the knee; and I do believe it is often a necessity.

 

     Have you experienced everything you write about?

 

That is a good question.  Yes, I have, with the exception of the fact that I’ve never tried to throw myself off of a balcony and I haven’t had sex with a hot fireman.  LOL.

 

     What is your most dreaded spanking implement?

 

The paddle with the holes in it.

 

     Why do you think spanking is so important in a relationship?

 

Well, for many of the same reasons you state in your blog.  It alleviates the feeling of being overwhelmed, helps adjust perspective, is emotionally calming, reduces tension, increases trust, gives a feeling of safety, proves a person is notices, accepted and loved, increases sexual bonding and ultimately brings partners closer together.  Sometimes love has to be tough love.  Often times tough love is the strongest of all.

 

 

     What would you like to say to my blog readers?

 

First, thank you for your interest in acquiring balance through submission and dominance.  Some of the happiest couples I know are those that employ this philosophy in their lives.  I wish you that same fulfillment.  Second, thank you for reading this interview and for your interest in my books.  Please tell your friends about my books.

 

     Where can we connect with you?

 

People can reach me on Facebook .  In fact, I would love it if you would “Like” my author page on Facebook.  You can also email me directly at AuthorSusanSanchez@gmail.com

 

You can also visit my Amazon Author page for more information on my books.

 

 

 

 

Exciting News!

Exciting News!

I got an email from the author of the Elise Dugar Episodes.  I guess my blog showed up linked to her name and so she was checking it out and saw that I was a fan of her books.  She's agreed to do an exclusive interview with me!  I'm so excited!  She said she'll give a sneak peek into what she's writing next. 

So, tune in on Wednesday (tomorrow) and meet author Susan Sanchez, author of the Elise Dugar Episodes.  If you haven't read them yet, you've got to read them!

If you don't know who I'm talking about, you can check her page out here:
http://www.amazon.com/Susan-Sanchez/e/B00GIA27C0/ref=ntt_athr_dp_pel_pop_1

Tune in tomorrow!

 

 

 

Heating Things Up

I just finished reading the fourth book in the Elise Dugar Episodes and they are just so good.  One of the reasons I like them is because they're short so when I get deep into the story it doesn't take up my whole day and get me into trouble for not getting done what I need to.  Second, I really like the perspective on submission and dominance.  Some books I've read in the past have had great stories but then the real-life sub/dom element is skewed or so far over the top that it loses it's realism for me.  I get frustrated when that happens.   Third, I like sex scenes but not ones that are SO graphic that it sort of gets distasteful.  The Elise Dugar Episode books are subtle and for me, it's the subtly that gets me turned on.  And it's not just a chick thing either.  My hubby likes them and that's saying a lot because he doesn't read much more than the newspaper.

Anyway, here's the latest book and the link to it if you want to pick it up.  It's cheap, cheap, cheap and totally worth the read.  I recommend reading it with your hubby but make sure you're alone because things are bound to heat up; maybe even your bottom!  :)

 

 

And for your viewing pleasure, here are some new pictures:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

A Better Me

Dominance and Submission dates back a long, long time, and so does punishment spankings.  There's a balance in the male/female psyche when the male is dominant and the female is submissive.  I know some people participate the other way around and that seems to work for them, which is good.  But, for me and my husband, we feel a carnal, instinctive urge toward the balance we find in his dominance and my submission. 

Men are by nature more logical than women.  Women are more emotional than men.  It's a good balance.  However, sometimes are emotions can run wild and affect our ability to make rational decisions.  Having a man there to help control the emotions is beneficial.  Maintenance spankings help a lot.  I am living proof that when my husband spanks me several times a week, I function better.  I am more tolerant of others, I am less stressed and tend to not feel overwhelmed by everything that's going on in our lives.  I've come to realize that when he maintains a strict schedule of maintenance or reminder spankings, I'm a better me.  I like that.  It's a simple solution to what would otherwise become a terrible situation.  We avoid big fights this way because, let's face it, when the woman in the house is at peace, so is the man.  It usually isn't the man of the house creating the emotional turmoil.  So, for me to go over his knee for a reminder spanking is little price to pay for harmony in our lives.  I can't stress enough how important maintenance spankings are.

This is the schedule we are on.  Keep in mind that my hubby travels some and works some from home.  When he's home I get spanked almost every day.  When he's gone he will either instruct me to give myself a spanking, which I've described in detail in past blogs, or he'll have me write down my infractions daily and he addresses them the moment he gets home.  It's hard for me when he's gone because I need to be disciplined and held accountable regularly.  Like I said, it makes me a better me.  I like myself more when I am being held accountable.  I like all of life more in fact.

Our schedule when he's home:

Monday - Friday Morning:  After I take our kids to school I come home and go straight to our bedroom and unclothe.  I lay over the bed naked with my bottom exposed.  He comes in, talks with me about the things we are working on and the improvements we want to see and then gives me a hard and long hand spanking.  After that, I bend over and touch my toes and he gives me twenty smacks with the leather strap.  This is to remind me of all we have talked about.  Then, it's corner time for three minutes to think about the spanking I just received.

Monday-Friday Afternoon:  Before the kids come home from school, my hubby and I will sit down and assess how the day has gone so far.  If he feels or if I feel I need more reminding, he'll spank me again.  If not, then he doesn't.

Monday-Friday Bedtime:  Before bed he gives me a spanking with the loopy johnny whip because it's quiet.  Usually this is a short spanking, but boy does that whip sting.

If I have earned a punishment spanking throughout the day, he either gives it to me right away or waits until the next morning and adds it to my maintenance spanking.

On weekends, whenever we find time alone, he will usually give me a quick reminder spanking, but most of the time weekends only involve discipline spankings when I have done something to be punished, which can be often at times, depending on my attitude.

There are days when I get a spanking up to four times and my bum really hurts.  I don't like those days so I try really hard to avoid them. But going over his knee once or twice a day keeps me in line and makes me feel carefree and even joyful afterwards.  It melts away my stress.  I hear a lot of people say that they don't experience the same afterglow and I think that's because they are probably not being spanked to tears and not being properly spoken to during the spanking.  It's important for the man to verbally chastise while punishing so that the woman can make a clear connection between her action or behavior and the punishment.  Here's an example:

This happened a while ago, when long distance fees still existed and they were incredibly high.  Anyway, I have a friend in London and she and I talked over two hours.  I had called her.  I don't want to tell you the amount of money that call cost because to this day my butt stings when I think of it.  I got a hard spanking, in fact, I got many hard spankings; but it was how my hubby handled it that drove the point home. 

As he put me over his knee, he said:  "You knew the time limits for long distance calls and you intentionally disregarded the rules.  This has cost us a lot of money.  It was selfish of you to waste that money.  You were disobedient and frivolous and showed a clear disrespect for the rules we laid out together.  For all of that, I'm going to discipline you."

I was already in tears before he even started to spank me.  But the key was that WHILE HE SPANKED ME, he chastised me.  While smacking my bottom he would say, "I will not tolerate your disobedience."  So with every smack I knew I was being punished for disobedience.  It might sound silly, but it's important and it works.  I've never exceeded my long distance (and now my cell phone limit) ever again!

The long and the short of it is, spanking serves a purpose for the man and the woman.  Balance. Harmony.  Love.  An afterglow that is unexplainable.  I am grateful to have a man that loves me enough to help me become a better me. 

Ouch!

 

Another spanking on an already red bottom..........

 

 

Dropping my Pants like F-bombs

My husband doesn’t like it when I curse.  It’s one of the things on my list of things for which I get disciplined.  Honestly, I don’t want to use bad language either but sometimes it just flows out of me.  Whenever I am upset or mad or feel there’s been an injustice or in pain or frustrated, well, you get the picture.  I tend to teeter on the edge of cursing a lot.

Today, my husband came up from his office downstairs right as I was talking to a girlfriend on the phone and venting some of my frustration.  I dropped several f-bombs before I realized he was in the room.  He told me to get off of the phone and bare my bottom immediately, which, of course I didn’t do because my girlfriend was in the middle of talking and it would have been rude to interrupt her.  That made my hubby twice as mad.

“Tell her you’ll call her back and hang up the phone now,” he said.

Finally, about ten minutes later when my girlfriend stopped talking, I made up an excuse why I had to go.  My husband had left a note for me on the kitchen table that read:  “Go get my black belt, the cane and the loopy johnny whip, get naked and come to my office.”

I got butterflies in my stomach when I saw the note.  I knew I was in for a big beating.  Part of me thought to grab my car keys and leave, but I knew once I returned it would be even worse.  So, I fetched the tools, took off my clothes and walked downstairs to his office.  He took the tools from me and told me to stand in the corner.  I did.  He told me that if I was going to be dropping F-bombs then I was going to be dropping my pants.  

 

After a few minutes in the corner, he took me over his knee and gave me a hard, hard, hard spanking with his hand.  My butt was burning hot already when he was through and told me to bend over the arm of the sofa.  He rarely makes me count swats, but he did today and I counted 55 swats with his belt.  My butt was on fire and I was fighting back the urge to cry.  He moved me to the coffee table and instructed me to bend over and place my hands on the table, sticking my butt out toward him.  He then gave me 25 lashes with the cane.  I finally cried.  The cane hurts really bad.  Back over his knee I went for forty swats with the loopy johnny whip while he lectured me on how the F word is not appropriate for a lady to say and should not be said in our home. 

I hope I’ve learned my lesson this time.  My bottom stings even as I sit here typing this.  I wish I didn’t curse and I’m going to try really hard to do better, otherwise I won’t be able to sit down EVER.

After my spanking was over, he kissed me and told me I had a clean slate.  He then told me to try and keep it clean longer than I had kept it clean before.  I’m going to try.  It never ceases to amaze me how much he loves me and how right I feel whenever he holds me accountable to the things in myself that I want to change.  I can’t do it alone and though I don’t like to be punished, I do like the fact that he’s strong enough to take me under his authority and give me a spanking when I need it.  A lot of people think this is strange, but I think it’s wonderful. 

Belted

I've been reading these books on discipline and I've blogged about a couple of them.  Well, this last one I thought was so good I shared it with my hubby, who made the comment that the way the man in book responded was exactly how he would have responded too.  It led us to some pretty deep conversations.  For example:  In the book the man spanks the woman in the stairwell of their apartment building where anyone could have walked in and seen or even overheard what was happening. 

I asked my hubby:  Would you spank me somewhere public like that, where someone might see us?

He said:  If you did to me what she did to him I'd have dragged your ass into the middle of the street and whipped you in plain sight of everyone.

Me:  Whoaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.  That would not be good.

We ended up arguing about what the man could and couldn't do, what was considered "right" or "wrong" and "fair" or "unfair."

Needless to say it escalated into a full on fight and I ended up bent over the counter in the kitchen getting a whipping with his belt.  He chose the belt because that was the name of the book:  Belting Love

He gave me a hard whipping for my attitude and then took me over his knee right before bed for a reminder spanking.  My butt was burning as I crawled into bed.

 

Anyway, despite the fact that I got in trouble ..........AGAIN........ I really am enjoying these books.  If you're an Amazon Prime member like me you can download them for free!  Just click on the pics for the links:

I totally recommend them for men and women, and they are really hot when you read them together.  But watch out for the discussions that follow.  They can get you into a bit of trouble.  :)

I Smell a Spanking Coming On

My hubby has been traveling a lot for work and it's been really hard on me.  He was gone for ten days straight and just got home two days ago.  The transition from him being gone to being home is hard too, though I much prefer having him home. 

While he was gone I had to give myself two hard self-spankings while we Facetimed on the phone.  One was because of my language and the other was because of my negative attitude.  I deserved both of them, though I prefer his spankings to mine.


When he got home the other night, he was in rare form because it had been a long flight and right when he walked in I asked him why he smelled like perfume.  That wasn't smart.  I could see the look in his eyes and I knew right away I was gonna get it.  He took me by the wrist and pulled me into the family room.  He said, "All I smell is a spanking coming on."  Before I could even apologize or say anything at all, he had his belt off, my pants down and was whipping me hard over the back of the couch.  Thirty swats on my bare butt for my jealous comment. When he stopped I was so antagonistic I blurted, "you didn't answer my question!"  To which he answered with another thirty swats.  My butt was bright red when he was done and I was in tears, but I felt better and I think he did too.  I had missed his authority and I needed to feel him love me securely and forcefully. 

He told me later that he sat next to a woman on the plane who's perfume was so strong that the gentleman in the row ahead of her complained to the flight attendant. 

Right before bed, while I was laying in bed reading, he came in and told me to get up and take off my clothes.  I hesitated so he helped.  He pulled off my t-shirt and pulled down my panties and then took me over his knee.  I'm not sure why other than it was an exercise in submission.  He gave me a hard, hard hand-spanking until I lay limp and flushed over his lap.  After three minutes of corner time to think about how I should have jumped up and obeyed his request to take off my clothes right away, we went to bed and he made-love to me.  It was slow and perfect.  Sometimes we get rushed and I feel like we are having sex but not making love.  This time it was beautiful.

I love how he loves me enough to care enough to adjust my attitude.  :) 

Oh yeah, I almost forgot.  That author, Susan Sanchez, has a new book out and it's a sequel to the first.  The back of the book says more are coming too.  I'm very excited! Her stories are only $0.99 to download which is even more awesome because I have a limit on how much I can spend monthly on my kindle.  Anyway, the series is called the Elise Dugar Episodes.  I read the first book last week and I just read the second one called Anticipation this week.  So good.  So, so, so good.  Thankfully my hubby was in town when I read Anticipation because I would have had to stop and pleasure myself otherwise.  It's THAT good!  Check it out:

http://www.smashwords.com/profile/view/SusanSanchez

A Spanking New Perspective

I stumbled upon this short story on spanking and I have to say I really enjoyed it.  I was sort of sifting through ebooks looking for something that wouldn't be so time consuming, or at least not as time consuming as a full length book, and I found an author named Susan Sanchez.  Supposedly, she's coming out with a series of short spanking stories, which I think is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO exciting!  The one I read is called "A Spanking New Perspective" and it got me all hot and bothered.  In fact, I was so worked up I sneaked into my hubby's office downstairs and asked him for a maintenance spanking.

Those of you who read my blog or know me know that I don't need to ask for a maintenance spanking, as my hubby is pretty thorough and consistent with dishing it out.  But this book got me in the mood, which doesn't happen often with books or movies, which happen to be lacking in realism when it comes to this topic.

Anyway, here's the link to the book.  I bought it on Smashwords but I think I saw it on Amazon too.  It was only $0.99 usd so totally worth the money!

Hope you guys like it as much as I did! 

Reading and Writhing

I had a long to-do list to get done today and I lost motivation about half way thru.  I thought I'd just read for about twenty minutes, you know, take a break and relax, but twenty minutes turned into two hours.  I've been reading this action mafia series about a young woman who becomes boss of her family.  I get sucked into the story and time just flies away.

Anyway, my husband asked me to get back to work three times but I sort of ignored him and kept reading.  I wasn't trying to disobey, I just kept thinking, one more chapter, one more chapter.  The book is THAT good.  In fact, I'm thinking about writing to the author and telling her that it is so good it got me into trouble.  After the third time, he swooped the book out of my hand, turned me over the end of the couch, pulled down my jeans and panties and gave me a hard walloping WITH THE BOOK!  Thank God it's a paperback that's all I have to say.  Seriously, though, the whole time he spanked me he told me that I was to obey his request the first time, not ignore him three times.  I couldn't argue with that.  Once he had my attention, he took off his belt and punished me hard until I cried and apologized.

Then he told me that he would finish my punishment tonight.  Now I have to anticipate the rest of it all day.  That's the worst.  Every time I see him in his office or in the kitchen, being put over his knee is the first thing that pops into my mind and I get all flushed.  I know he's going to paddle me hard too and then he'll send me to the corner and probably spank me even after corner time.  Sometimes he does that to really drive home his point.

Was the book worth it?  Yes, but next time I'm not going to ignore him.  Lesson learned.  I'll be reading without the writhing. 

Men MUST Give Mandatory Spankings

It's hard to maintain consistency when we have such a busy schedule and especially when my husband is out of town during most weeks.  Sometimes we get to put in one solid week of submission training and I can really tell a difference in how I feel and how our marriage is during those weeks that he's home. 

A spanking keeps me in line, and it keeps most women in line although the mainstream is afraid to face it or admit it.  At first it feels embarrassing to say you need to be spanked, but after a while you realize there's no shame in it.  Men are leaders and that doesn't mean women can't lead, but it means that we are designed to co-lead with the man.

Women have a whole lot more hormonal and emotional things happening in their bodies and minds than men do.  I don't know about you but sometimes I can't even control my emotions.  Sometimes I feel sad for no reason or irritable for no reason and that's when a being brought over his knee helps to refocus my energy and bring me to a happier place.

If I go a few days without being held accountable I start to use bad language, I get a negative outlook, I get crabby and hateful and angry, and then I end up getting a hard punishment lashing instead of the normal daily maintenance.  I'd rather have the daily discipline than the punishment one any day of the week. 

My bum is an instrument of peace in our marriage.  When my husband is angry with me, we don't have to fight, he simply pulls down my pants and gives me a spanking, during which he releases his anger and I submit and the argument dies right there.

Being spanked is a stress release for a woman, especially if you paddle her until she cries.  Making her cry might seem mean at first, but it isn't, it's opening the dam of her emotions and helping her release it all.  Sometimes women just need to cry and then the world is a better place.  Sometimes it takes a man's belt on her bare ass to provide that release.

Men, women need rules because rules make us feel protected and safe.  Also, when we break a rule we need immediate consequences because that makes us feel noticed and loved.  There is nothing worse in a woman's heart than if she feels unnoticed, uncared for or unloved.  The worse times in our marriage have been when I've felt ignored by him or less important than other people or other things or like he was neglecting what was important to me.  Those are big danger areas for a woman and men need to be able to recognize those areas and fix what needs to be fixed.  Sometimes just getting on a routine discipline schedule will fill in the gaps and show her how much she is loved.

Men, be ready for your woman to test you out in public with her words or attitude.  She may not even consciously know it, but this is a test.  She wants to see if you will be strong enough to hold the reigns and follow through on your rules.  It isn't always possible to discipline in public, but if the opportunity is there, take it.  It will make a huge difference in your marriage.  If you're out at a movie or a restaurant and there is a designated "family restroom" that is one room with a locked door, take your wife in there, lock the door, bend her over the sink and give her a belting or a hand spanking.  If you are driving, pull into a secluded spot, open both the front and back door on one side of the car, bend your wife over the back seat so that the view is blocked by both doors and give her a hard paddling.  I know of men who have taken their wife out to the parking lot, sat in the backseat of their cars with their wife over their knee and given them a walloping without anyone knowing.  There are ways to make it happen when it needs to.  At the very least, if you cannot make it happen, take her by the arm and whisper in her ear that she is going to get it when you get home.  Let her anticipate the spanking for the rest of the evening and then upon arriving home, administer it immediately.

By making her spanking a priority in your life, you are making HER a priority.  By caring enough to enforce the rules, you are telling her that you care enough about HER to make her feel safe and protected.  It all begins with your hand on her backside in a consistent and permeating way.

So, if you have an inconsistent pattern, this is what you need to do:

1.  Mandatory spanking every morning and every evening that you are together.  This MUST happen without fail.  Make time for it.  Do this for a period of 14 days total if your weeks are broken up with travel or two weeks consistently if you are both home.

2.  Seven of these 14 days she must exercise an attitude of submission by coming to her husband and asking to receive a spanking.  This is in addition to the regular morning and evening sessions.  Whenever you are together, for lunch, the middle of the night, it doesn't matter when, the wife must exhibit submission by going to the husband, taking off her clothes and asking him to discipline her.  She may bring him a tool or he may use his hand, take off his belt, a spatula, ping pong paddle, hairbrush, whatever is at his disposal. 

3.  Prior to the morning and evening session, the wife must be given anticipation and reflection time.  This is time naked and either in the corner or in spanking position, reflecting on her behavior and anticipating the discipline he is about to administer.  It doesn't have to be a long period of time, 1-3 minutes is adequate.

4.  Spankings must be long and hard to be effective.  If her bottom isn't bright red and burning hot then it is not going to be effective.  Hard, fast swats get the point across the quickest. 

After 14 days she should hurt to sit down.  Her bottom should be sore but her heart will be warm and so will your marriage. 

 

Spank the Stress Away

I can get pretty cranky and sometimes I just get upset and mad and I stay that way.  It makes me hate myself really.  I’ve been in a mood lately and my hubby got tired of it.  But before he could even punish me for my sour outlook I burst into tears.  I didn’t do it on purpose, even though I know that makes it harder on him to punish me.  We talked and decided that I need help controlling my emotions, especially when I’m frustrated and angry.  Anytime I’m mad I fight being spanked even to the point of kicking him, which results in a longer, harder beating ultimately.  I don’t know why I do it, but sometimes the anger gets the best of me.  We decided that controlling my emotions was going to be top of my list for a while and he is going to help me by putting in place some small steps of stress release and submission.

 

You guys all know that submission and stress go hand in hand.  It’s almost impossible for an upset, agitated and stressed out woman to easily submit her bottom for a paddling.  We’re not wired this way, but there are things that help us submit easier and with less of a fight.  These things have to be done consistently or it’s a waste of time and effort.

 

Here’s what has worked wonders for us.  I’m happier and more peaceful and I sleep better and feel less stress in my life.  I know it will work for you if you take the time and make it a priority in your marriage.

 

Step 1:  Every morning, either before work or after taking the kids to school, before your day gets started, the wife strips completely naked and lies on the bed with her bottom exposed.  This is similar to corner time, only she is lying down, exposed and awaiting a whipping.  This gives her time to think about her mindset, her emotions, her attitude and her behavior.  She should lay in this position a minimum of 3-5 minutes, enough to let the upcoming discipline sink in and let her insides get tingly with anticipation.

 

 

 

Step 2:  The husband needs to stand where the wife can see him.  He should be holding his belt and address her, explaining to her that he is going to give her a belt spanking (one of the most painful) to relieve the stress that builds up inside of her and causes her to misbehave, feel embittered and angry.  This spanking will be to tears which means he will not let up until his wife is sobbing and sorrowful.  The stress is not released until the woman breaks down emotionally.  My husband had trouble with this the first few times because I was stubborn and it took me a while to cry, now I cry easily.  A belt spanking should cause her to cry somewhere between 25 and 200 lashes depending on how stubborn she is.

 

Step 3:  Send her to the corner immediately without any sex play.  Her pussy will be hot and wet from the anticipation of sex and from the sensation of your authority, but it’s important that you don’t have sex yet.  She needs time to think about the spanking and to process in her mind why she was whipped and allow it to shape her attitude moving forward.   This is a very important step.  Anytime my husband didn’t send me to the corner after a beating, the message didn’t sink in.  A woman needs time to be introspective and apply the discipline to her behavior.

 

Step 4:  Engage in sex play if you both want but with the understanding that her beating is only half way done and that after she orgasms you’re going to finish the whipping.  This is important for her to hear and to know that this is not a game to the husband.  She needs to understand that she is not being spanked as a form of foreplay but as a strict discipline related to her attitude and behavior.  Nothing proves that more than a whipping right after you have both peaked.  Before you have sex, tell her she will be getting another spanking immediately following.  She might not believe you but you’ll prove it to her.

 

Step 5:  As soon as the sex is done, have her place the palms of her hands on top of the bed or desk or dresser and protrude her bottom outward.  Give her at least 25 more lashings with the belt and talk through each lashing.  Example:  “This is for being cranky at home.”  Lash 1.  “This is for using foul language out of anger.”  Lash 2.   “This is for a negative attitude.”  Lash 3.  She needs your verbal proclamation of her misbehavior in order to make a solid connection in her mind that this is what happens when she behaves this way. 

 

Before bedtime it is very important that you follow this procedure again only you can substitute the belt for a quieter tool if you have others in the home who might overhear.  If you want to see changes in the wife’s behavior she must be paddled first thing in the morning and last thing at night.  Do this for two weeks and then you will be able to taper it down to once or twice a week.

 

I promise it works. I’ve been feeling light and free and our home has been peaceful and our marriage has been incredibly wonderful.  Spank that stress away, it’s good for your heart too!